As I heard my 5 children come in the front door and head up the stairs my heart wrenched in physical and emotional pain.
I fell to my knees and began sobbing uncontrollably.
It was right then that I realized as I heard their joyful laughing voices calling “Mom! We’re Home!” that this day could have been so very different.
I thanked my Heavenly Father that my children would find me alive and happy to see them, not seemingly asleep yet not breathing having left them and this life… by accidental overdose.
That’s the day I decided my life had to change and I had to find the joy within myself.
Things didn’t change overnight like in the movies. That was not the day I found joy, happiness, and that everything was going to be perfect. It’s not the day that the dementors left me. It was not the day that all of my problems went away.
Without question, it was the day I realized that my heart had stopped beating.
I will always remember that is WAS the day I decided to start living again. The first thing I had to do was to remember who I was. I had spent so many years being only what everyone else told me I should be or that I thought I had to be to be accepted and loved that I didn’t know who I was anymore.
So, it’s time for you to do a self-check.
When is the last time you felt your heart beating? When is the last time you truly felt joy in your life and knew without hesitation who you are, what your purpose is, and how you are going to achieve your dreams and goals?
Here are three powerful steps for how you can do this:
Y – YOU! Take care of you every day.
The average woman spends only 17 minutes a day on herself. That’s just crazy! Taking care of ourselves is mandatory to feel alive. How can we care for those we love if we don’t care for ourselves?
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman
I’d love to hear you share your “I AM” statement below. Who are you really? Deep down in your deepest soul?
E – EXCITED! Get excited about your life and what you’re doing every day.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to wake up excited every morning? If you aren’t doing what you are passionate about your heart won’t be ablaze and you won’t feel anything.
“Unhappiness is not knowing what we want and killing ourselves to get it.” -Don Herold
We must choose to do things that get us excited! Do you want to change the world, have a great relationship, have fewer negative emotions? What about success? Chose what you want to do and be in your life and how you want to live and get excited about it!
S – START! Don’t wait. Do it NOW!
“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted… Do it now.” -Paulo Coelho
Someone once said, “The time to have the map is before you enter the woods.” Do you have your map ready?
What are you waiting for? Right this very minute, make a clear plan and make it happen!
Y.E.S. You need to get Excited and Start now!
What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up?
Your community helps you thrive. When you were little did grownups ask what you wanted to be when you grew up? I and many others heard the same question. We got it at school, on the playground, in neighborhood stores, and other places throughout our community.
Early on, the adults who spent the most time with you noticed you were skilled in an area and steered you that way. As you matured, you discovered you had multiple interests but knew your natural talent was driving you towards your “grown-up” job. After following the plan for completing your degree and landing a job, you began new your career.
Making A Change
A few years later and you’re stuck in a rut. Your career is okay, but something is missing. You used to love it, now it’s monotonous and unfulfilling. Thinking about doing it for another 20 years fills you with anxiety. Something has to change!
After some soul-searching, you decide to start a business. Your skills are in-demand skills. You know you can help people. Your goal – build a successful, profitable, business within one year.
You are excited at the prospect of using your skills to serve others. Spending more time with your children is the biggest bonus of this new venture.
Finding Your Way
Need Direction
While working hard to become an entrepreneur, things have stalled – nothing is working. You’ve invested tons of hours doing research, bought coaching programs to help and put forth a consistent effort. But, it feels like you’re going in circles.
Always proactive you designed your exit plan eight months ago. It turns out your new supervisor is a micromanager, your employee morale is low – you want out ASAP!
You don’t know which way to go. Now you’re discouraged and thinking, “Now what?”
Wondering
Finding A Community
Figuring things out by yourself hasn’t worked. Tired and feeling alone, you’re craving a place to bounce your ideas and get constructive input – you wonder if it even exists?
Don’t despair – the Yes! Women’s Network was created to support you and other women – business owners or not.
Yes! Women’s Network embraces women at the different stages of their lives. It gives them a spot to gather – get support through education, inspiration, giving and the community.
Exhale, then join us at Yes! Women’s Network. We’re waiting for you!
If you’d like to chat or need any help you can find me here.
Pamela
Thank you to KUTV and Fresh Living for having me on for this quick discussion. I had a ton of fun and hope to be visiting again very soon.
*Article credit to KUTV (see original post)
(KUTV) Salt Lake City – Founder of YES! Women’s Network, Sheila J. Davis, joined Kari & Dave on Fresh Living to talk about the purpose of YES! Women’s Network, the upcoming Mom’s Conference in Logan, and 3 Powerful Secrets to the Joy of You.
Sheila writes, “Women gladly take on the role of daughter, friend, wife, mother, and others that we love. This is a huge part of who we are and it’s a very important part. It changes us each time we come to a new stage in life and it’s wonderful! However, the average woman spends less than an hour and a half on themselves each week! That’s about 17 minutes a day. 51% of women say they don’t even do that. How can we be our best if that’s all we do for ourselves? To be the best at all of the things we love being, we must also be our very best self and find the joy of it. You know the saying: “Mom’s mood rules the house…” Well, what if mom felt the joy within herself every day?”
“There are 3 Powerful Secrets that can help women accomplish finding the JOY of being who they are in everyday life. When I told my daughter, who is not yet a mother about these secrets, she said, “Oh mom, everyone knows that.” I told her that yes, we all know these secrets, but we have put them so far down on the list of things we need to do that we have actually forgotten that we know them and that they are important. It’s time to bring the secrets back into the light. The first Powerful Secret we have forgotten is YOU. The little girl inside of you with the big dreams is still there, the dreams you had when you were a teenager are still there, the activities that you love doing when your life became about everything and everyone else is still there, and it’s okay to let YOU out.”
“It was like in that movie The Run Away Bride, she didn’t know what kind of eggs she liked because she just started eating and enjoying the kind of eggs that her boyfriends liked. She didn’t take the time to really find out what she truly enjoyed. Once she took just a few minutes to try different things and allow herself to listen to herself she was able to learn something about herself that she had not known or that she had forgotten. We make certain dinners for our families because we know they love that meal, we go out to eat at places that our friends or husbands love, we watch movies that our children like, etc. We do this because we love our family and it’s what we do and it’s important. So, outside of these decisions we have to make for those we love and support, what do we truly love and what do we truly find joy in each day for ourselves?”
The first step in finding the JOY of being YOU may sound simple, and yet it will surprise you how hard it is. The first step is YOU. Simply put, it’s time to stand up and introduce yourself to you again. Do this by re-reading old journals, thinking back to when you were little and what you wanted to do when you grew up, writing down lists of things that you forgot you loved or that you did, and one of the most important is putting you first every day. Set a morning routine that will work for you. I know what it’s like when you have 5 babies at home. You’re thinking: ‘There is no way I have time for myself in the morning.’ Well, there is, but it may seem hard at first. Get up just 15 minutes earlier and do something for yourself. It could be to wash your face so you feel refreshed, it could be to have a cup of hot chocolate in the quite of the morning, it could be to read for 10 minutes from a favorite book, it could be anything that you love or that could help you spend just 15 minutes with yourself in the morning. Which, by the way, will give you an additional hour and a half, thus doubling the time you’ve probably been spending doing something for yourself each week.”
If you want to learn a new skill the most efficient ways to gain that knowledge or experience are 1) get an instructor who can teach you or 2) work with an industry professional and gain experience as an intern.
Decide which method you prefer, outline your plan, then take the necessary steps to achieve that goal. Just a reminder – before investing your time or money, be sure your future mentor, coach, or trainer’s reputation support his/her claims for success.
Do your research before committing to any partnerships. You’re going to work with this person and good communication is helpful. Even if you value her experience, make sure you are comfortable with your interaction beforehand.
The world wide web is a ready resource, but at times it can have the effect of a double-edged sword. On the one hand, you can locate information about most businesses through this online library. By the same token, any “wanna be” coach, or mentor can simply launch a new practice or sell a program without experience by quickly creating a website and marketing her “system”.
Don’t get me wrong, we all start somewhere. But if your future coach can point to her experience and positive results, it builds credibility and makes your decision to say Yes or No much easier.
Experience builds credibility
If the former students of your prospective coach share their positive experiences and outcomes because of her help that further enhances her reputation.
Wondering how to choose a teacher or mentor?
Do your research!
Look for satisfied clients or students before blindly handing over your credit card number. Check out the testimonials on her website. Someone who shares glowing feedback knows, likes and trusts this service provider. You can learn more about her experience and reputation through her current and former clients.
If you’re now convinced she is the right person for you, take the leap and connect with your prospective mentor. But, if there’s still some hesitation, take this next step and…
Do more research!!
Search for people who have shared words of praise about this expert. You can continue making discoveries by visiting their websites. If your prospective coach, mentor or teacher has made a significant impact on this entrepreneur’s business, you may see references to her and links back to her program. If you see this type of “social proof” you’ve probably found a winner!
So remember to:
Do your research!
Spend the necessary time to investigate before investing your time or money.
Do more research!!
Keep exploring until you get answers to your questions.
Wanting to grow and learn is both admirable and natural. But remember to give yourself enough time to investigate up-front so you can save yourself from future regret on the back-end.
Are you searching for a safe place to learn, grow and hang out with other women online?
The Yes! Women’s Network was created with that goal in mind.
See who’s there now.
In the words of Dr. Spock, “Live long and prosper!”
See you soon…
Pamela
Want to chat about how I can help you? Find me here!
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