We can all use a little more self-confidence these days. Self-confidence can often be in short supply in trying times but there are ways you can get it back. When your self-confidence is lacking, you need to take control of the situation and make yourself-confident again. You can accomplish a lot more with self-confidence than you can without.

Once you know how to create confidence, you become a powerful person. Confidence breeds more confidence which is a direct link to success.

So how can you get your self-confidence back?

Try one or more of these techniques and see how your confidence soars!

Make a to-do list.

Having a to do list ensures that nothing will fall through the cracks and allows you to see what is on your plate. From there, choose 3 to 5 tasks that are the most important to accomplish for the day, prioritize them and then get them done. You will be amazed at how awesome you will feel as you tick the items off the list.  Show yourself that you can be productive and successful.

Each time you make a list or a plan and execute it, you have more confidence in yourself.

It doesn’t matter what it is you accomplish, just the act of accomplishing  is not only motivating but a big self-confidence booster.

Keep your biggest goals to yourself.

Revealing your big goals to others can be enough to make you consider quitting if the feedback you get is not positive. This is de-motivating and will make you question your goals.

Improve your posture.

How you use your body affects how you feel. If you sit and stand tall, you’ll feel more confident, try it;  sit up in your chair and see how much more confident professional you feel. In fact, many salespeople make their calls standing up for this exact reason.

List all your positive qualities and accomplishments.

There are plenty of things you can admire about yourself. Even if you have to call your mom and friends for inspiration, make a list of all your positive qualities. It won’t take long before you feel a little confidence welling up inside of you. Keep the list handy for future reference and keep adding all your accomplishments to it.

Remove those things from your life you’ve been tolerating.

We tolerate too much in our lives. It is important to get rid of everything and everyone that is a confidence and energy sucker.

Do something you’re good at.

What are you good at? Whatever it is, you feel better after doing it. Try to spend time each day doing something that you know you’re great at. Your self-confidence will increase.

Exercise.

Exercise provides more than just health benefits. It boosts your willpower, stamina, and self-belief. Exercise also reduces anxiety. All of these things can’t help but boost your self-confidence, too. It’s important to try to get at least a little exercise each day.

End Result.

It’s probably not possible to feel confident 100% of the time, but you can come a lot closer than you think. Even in challenging circumstances, you are the same.

Self-confidence is always right there, you just have to see it.

These simple actions are an easy way to find the self-confidence you’ve temporarily misplaced.

Share with us what works best to boost your self-confidence! We would love to hear from you!

You can accomplish anything if you’re willing to fail along the way. Failure is a consistent part of success. The most successful people fail far more often than those who are less successful. If you see every failure as a lesson, then you will learn from your mistakes and use them on your road to success.

Life is full of setbacks. The question is whether you allow failure and other setbacks to derail your efforts. Everyone can learn to better deal with these common annoyances on the road to success.

Failure is a funny thing. It feels embarrassing and catastrophic, but that’s rarely the case. You fail every day. When you think your keys are in the kitchen drawer, but discover they are not, you failed. However, you don’t let it bother you. Instead, you just look somewhere else. Try to adopt the same approach to all failures.

Dealing with failure can be that simple. If your first attempt doesn’t work, try something else. The same can be said for your 30th failed attempt. Most people try a time or two and then give up. They decide it either can’t be done, or the stress of failing becomes too much to bear.

Try these recommendations to overcome failure:

Maintain your composure.

Nothing will derail your progress like becoming emotionally distraught or quitting altogether. Undesirable results happen more often than not. It’s important to understand this fact. When you expect that you’ll sometimes fail, it won’t bother you nearly as much when you do. Just keep going.

Determine what went wrong.

If possible, determine the error in your approach. Do your best to understand exactly what happened and why. If you don’t understand the issue, you can’t correct it.
Maybe you just need to try again. Some things just naturally have high failure rates, like sales. For some products and services, you might face 100s of failures between successes. There’s no reason to fret, just try again. And again. And again.

Alter your approach.

It’s important to keep improving your method. No matter how great you are at something, it can always be better. Take a few minutes each day and adjust your approach. Learn from others who are successful and have failed multiple times.

Look for alternatives.

Maybe you need to try a completely new approach. There are often multiple ways around any obstacle. Maybe you can find a better alternative. For example, if you’ve been cold-calling for clients, maybe it would be better to:

  • Cold-email
  • Ask people you know for referrals
  • Show up in person
  • Attend meetups or conventions
  • Send postcards
  • Pass out flyers
  • Send lumpy mail

If you’ve thoroughly investigated one method, try another.

Sharpen your axe.

Sometimes it’s not about how hard you chop at the trees. It’s about how sharp your axe is. Develop yourself each day. Work on your general sales skills, if you are a salesperson. Learn something new to advance your career forward, like a new skill or software application.

Work on your coping skills.

Figure out the best ways to handle the stress and other negative emotions that commonly accompany failure and setbacks. Keep your options healthy. Calling a friend, exercise, and meditation are examples of acceptable options. Using drugs, alcohol, or food are examples of unhealthy coping strategies.

The Other Side of Fear is Freedom

You can’t succeed if you can’t handle failure. Most of us are far more afraid of failure than we should be. Just remember on the other side of fear is freedom. A failed sales call isn’t a life and death matter. The most successful people fail more often than they succeed. It’s just part of the game.

One of the best ways to predict your success is to look at your ability to handle failure. Successful people handle failure without any undo fuss. Try this next time you fail and see if you can turn your failures into successes!

We would love to hear from you! What steps do you take to deal with failure or fear? Leave us a comment below.

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Often when people hear the term “Law of Attraction” (LOA), they usually respond by saying ““it’s all hooey” or “its voo-doo”.  However, for us believers, it is a life altering concept that can provoke profound positive (or negative) change in our lives.

According to Wikipedia, the Law of Attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”. And that through the process of “like energy attracting like energy” a person can improve their own health, wealth and personal relationships.

Power of Our Mind

The work of quantum physics has demonstrably shown the incredible power our mind has over our lives.

You don’t ever have to understand the physics part to enjoy the benefits of the LOA. The LOA is a force in life whether you choose to believe (or utilize) it or not.

Every second of the day, the universe is responding to our thoughts and feelings, both positive and negative. By using our thoughts positively, we create positive outcomes by manipulating the universe into giving it to us.

Hundreds of years ago the Law of Attraction was first thought to have been taught to man through the immortal Buddha. Buddha wanted it to be known that ‘what you have become is what you have thought’. This belief is deeply intrinsic to the Law of Attraction.

Western Culture came up with the term ‘Karma’ for what the universe brings. What you give out to the world (such as joy, anger, love or hate). That is what will ultimately show up in your life.

Choose What You Want

In its simplest form, LOA is about choosing what you want. Then feeling the emotions associated with already having it, and then “releasing desire”. That is, let go of the outcome and relax.

It’s like putting an order in at a restaurant. Once you’ve told the waiter what you want. There is no point in getting anxious, because you know your order is on the way.

When we choose to utilize the LOA, we are choosing to manipulate reality to our benefit.

By choosing positive emotions we are telling the universe that we want more of these feelings in return.

And if you really want to get specific, you can use visualizations to tell the universe exactly how you want those feelings returned to you.

Affirmations and Visualization

To use the LOA effectively you must use cognitive reframing techniques as well as affirmations and creative visualization. These will replace limiting, self-destructive negative thoughts with ones that are more aligned with what we want… that is, positive thoughts.

A key component of the philosophy is that in order to effectively change a negative thinking pattern, you must also “feel’ that the desired outcome has already occurred. Meaning you visualizing the positive situation you want to create. This combination of positive thought and positive emotion is believed to allow one to “attract” positive experiences and opportunities by achieving resonance with the energy of the LOA. If you want to be in abundance, think, feel and act as if you are already in abundance.

Movement of Energy

The LOA is a universal law, similar to gravity, and is about the movement of energy. The concept of movement of energy has been scientifically proven. Everything emits energy and it’s the level of which will determine what shows up in your life.

The best way to ensure lack is to focus on “lack”.

What you focus on grows.

If you focus on abundance, your life will become more abundant.

Now this does not mean that business will just fall into your lap. You must take action consistent with creating the desired outcome. Like networking or doing a webinar for example, to gain exposure to people who want and can pay for your service.

However, more business will come your way from your efforts and positive beliefs. To make it work for you, you just have to set the intention of what you want and then become a vibrational match to it.

Let’s say you want to lose weight for example. You would imagine and visualize how you would look and feel at your goal weight.

You Shape Your Life

The most challenging part of the LOA is accepting the realization that if we create what happens in our life then every single one of your experiences in life, good and bad, has been shaped by us alone. For many, this is a bitter pill to swallow. Especially if you feel that you have been dealt a particularly hard life or current situation.

Rejoice though because the universe is always on our side, it roots for us to win! The more time you dedicate to learning how to use the Law of Attraction effectively, the more fulfilling and rewarding your life can be. There are no restrictions; open your mind and enjoy the natural abundance of the Universe.

Life is a blank canvas of possibility; you are in control of what the finished picture looks like. If you can hold onto an idea and a belief, and actually see it in your mind’s eye, you can make it happen- with some effort on your part of course.

As I heard my 5 children come in the front door and head up the stairs my heart wrenched in physical and emotional pain.

I fell to my knees and began sobbing uncontrollably.

It was right then that I realized as I heard their joyful laughing voices calling “Mom! We’re Home!” that this day could have been so very different.

I thanked my Heavenly Father that my children would find me alive and happy to see them, not seemingly asleep yet not breathing having left them and this life… by accidental overdose.

That’s the day I decided my life had to change and I had to find the joy within myself.

 

Things didn’t change overnight like in the movies. That was not the day I found joy, happiness, and that everything was going to be perfect. It’s not the day that the dementors left me. It was not the day that all of my problems went away.

Without question, it was the day I realized that my heart had stopped beating.

I will always remember that is WAS the day I decided to start living again. The first thing I had to do was to remember who I was. I had spent so many years being only what everyone else told me I should be or that I thought I had to be to be accepted and loved that I didn’t know who I was anymore.

So, it’s time for you to do a self-check.

When is the last time you felt your heart beating? When is the last time you truly felt joy in your life and knew without hesitation who you are, what your purpose is, and how you are going to achieve your dreams and goals?

Here are three powerful steps for how you can do this:

 

Y – YOU! Take care of you every day.

 

The average woman spends only 17 minutes a day on herself. That’s just crazy! Taking care of ourselves is mandatory to feel alive.  How can we care for those we love if we don’t care for ourselves?

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman

 

I’d love to hear you share your “I AM” statement below. Who are you really? Deep down in your deepest soul?

 

E – EXCITED! Get excited about your life and what you’re doing every day.

 

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to wake up excited every morning? If you aren’t doing what you are passionate about your heart won’t be ablaze and you won’t feel anything.

“Unhappiness is not knowing what we want and killing ourselves to get it.” -Don Herold

 

We must choose to do things that get us excited! Do you want to change the world, have a great relationship, have fewer negative emotions? What about success? Chose what you want to do and be in your life and how you want to live and get excited about it!

 

S – START! Don’t wait. Do it NOW!

 

“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted… Do it now.” -Paulo Coelho

 

Someone once said, “The time to have the map is before you enter the woods.” Do you have your map ready?

What are you waiting for? Right this very minute, make a clear plan and make it happen!

 

Y.E.S. You need to get Excited and Start now!

 

Looking forward to hearing from you about how you are jump-starting your life with Y.E.S.! Leave a comment below or message me.